STORIES OF LIFE
Amazing lady ❤ - a story about how I wanted to...
So that my husband will finally notice how amazing I am...
When will he finally notice how AMAZING I am?
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Well, probably never, when he was over 14. I think he missed that chance 😁
Do you also hear only criticism and no nice words?
Whenever my partner talked about someone, my head immediately went, they are great and I am terrible. Why does he talk so nicely about everyone and not about me? Why does he tell his stories with interest, but not our common ones, that is what is so terrible about me? Why doesn't he say anything nice to me, why never praises me, why does he always only see what I need to change and I feel like an idiot who needs to fix everything? I felt threatened and insecure.
"Well, if you do this and I would rather do this, if you always walk the same way, if you always walk slowly, you always work, you wear sneakers for your son, you don't follow me, you sleep late, you are tired, you, you, you..."
add your own there. Like when I listen to this over and over again, I think to myself, am I crazy or is he crazy 😂 I can't be the most horrible person in the world and why is he with me?
Well. Maybe my partner is just replaying our old childhood wounds.
When I finally realized that I probably want something from him that I wanted from my parents as a child and I'm desperately waiting for him to finally notice me and stop dealing with other things around me, he suddenly realizes how amazing I am!
Well, honestly, I realized it wasn't about him and that I wouldn't get to see him 🤔.
It was my desperate need from childhood, waiting for my mom to finally see me and be interested in me. She would appreciate my originality, how great I was, and watch me in awe.
She will say nice things to me and I will bask in bliss and bathe in her love.
But that didn't happen and won't happen. Even now, in my long-term adulthood, she has the same reaction to me and my life. I understand that it probably won't be any different for her. But I expected that my husband would understand and it would be easy for him, he would just say nice things to me and notice me and do what I need and fill that empty space in me...
Fortunately, I finally realized that it was my desperate attempt to fix and fill the childhood emptiness. I make relationships work, it seems to me on the contrary, I usually don't fill them, rather I draw attention to those emptinesses and pains, which we can then fill ourselves and then together.
This misfortune of mine troubled me for a long time and a long time. The sentence I had been waiting for my whole life never came. And it's clear why she couldn't, because of that injury, I never allowed myself to be myself. Whenever I tried to do that, the sentence YOU ARE HORRIBLE came to me. This injury controlled my life. I saw my life in black, I couldn't afford to be satisfied, to be happy with what I do, to have happy relationships. I was withdrawn and always waiting for what horrible thing I had done again.
Until now, I felt broken, I need to fix it. I do things wrong...
Try doing things that aren't yours and that you don't have a natural talent for and be TOP at it, you understand that it's hard work, right? It doesn't bring much joy, rather frustration and disappointment and fatigue and exhaustion.
Thanks to inner work and visualization of this situation in my relationship with my husband, an image from my childhood appeared to me, when my mother tells me that I'm horrible. The way I am and who I am - I'm horrible. To her, my naturalness and life and originality were threatening, it evoked rejection and unacceptability in her. For me as a child, it was devastating. It was written into my subconscious as a program and a wound that strongly influenced my life.
I still hear her say it often. Fortunately, I realized that if we really want something from our partner - it's not about the partner 😁 it's about us.
In visualization, I healed my wound and filled my emptiness. I think my husband and our relationship will feel relieved now. 😊
I stopped feeling that painful desire to hear that sentence and confirmation from outside.
Now I know that I am amazing. Gone are the regrets when I am happy with what I enjoy and fulfill. I don't need to be assured that the way I am is okay. It's even great, I have a lot of energy and I enjoy life, things come easily to me because I can use my gifts for my things and work. It's not even about me anymore, I don't even need to be amazing or for others to notice it. Wow. Just me being me❤️ That's enough.
Do you also feel like no one sees you? That you're always trying to be enough?
Do you do everything to make your partner appreciate you, but you still feel misunderstood, unseen, unloved?
👉 What if relationships only show you the pain you've carried since childhood?
And what if this is the key?
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Heal old wounds. And stop waiting for confirmation from outside.
🎯 Together, using constellations, we'll find where it all started - and where you can finally heal it.
Because:
You're amazing. And no one needs to confirm it anymore - you just need to finally know it.
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